What’s the big deal with orphanages in Cambodia?

Every year thousands of well-intentioned foreigners come to Cambodia with the goal of helping poor Cambodian children. The majority of them end up visiting or volunteering in Cambodian orphanages. Over the last year, orphanage tourism (as it is disparagingly called) has been getting a lot of negative publicity from child protection organizations. If you’ve wanted to come work with Cambodian children, you might have wondered what the big deal is–you’re just trying to help, right?

Cambodia family-based care

Family-based care is crucial for Cambodian children. Photo by Robert Buchan.

Move to Cambodia caught up with Luke Gracie, Alternative Care Manager at Move to Cambodia, in his piece, Luke has taken the time to explain once and for all what the fuss is about visiting orphanages in Cambodia and why you shouldn’t do it.

What’s the big deal with orphanages in Cambodia?

LG: “There are a lot of orphanages across Cambodia. There are also quite a lot of people and organisations, like the one I work for, that suggest people think twice about visiting, supporting or working in orphanages and to consider the harm they can cause. Amongst all this noise of ‘anti-orphanage’ posters and flyers and ‘pro-orphanage’ advertisements for orphanage tourism and people with Facebook profile shots of themselves hugging Cambodian youngsters, it’s very fair to ask, “what’s the big deal with orphanages in Cambodia?”

Well, to put it bluntly, the big deal is:

When they can live somewhere else, children do not belong in orphanages, they are highly damaging and dangerous institutions. Children belong with their family, or another family-like situation if they can’t stay with their direct family.

Certainly, there was a need for orphanages after the horrors of the Khmer Rouge. But a child born in 1979 is now 34 years old. A child born in 1989 is now 24 years old. So this justification for orphanages is growing a little, well, old. Since 2005 when the Cambodian economy boomed and the country experienced its most stable period in 40 years, the number of “orphanages” has increased by 75%.

Something doesn’t add up.”

What’s so bad about orphanages?

LG: “Approximately 75% of children in Cambodian orphanages are indeed not orphans; they have at least one living parent.

Actually calling these centres ‘orphanages’ is incorrect as it implies the children have a need to be there. There are numerous other options for marginalized children such as living with extended family members, people in the community or foster care options. The act of removing a child from his or her family is extreme; it is at the absolute pointy-end of child protection services; the drastic last resort when everything else has failed. It’s certainly nothing to be taken lightly.

The mind boggles when you think of what reasons are given to justify removing children from their families and communities:

“The children’s parents are really poor.”
“Well at least they get three meals a day and go to school.”
“But look at the smiles on the children’s faces.”

Rubbish.

Are these the two options we have for supporting vulnerable and marginalized kids; life in a dysfunctional family or life in a dysfunctional orphanage environment? How about income generation support for the family? How about counseling to help the father get over his drinking problem? How about the child living with their grandparents for six months while the parents sort their issues? How about treating Cambodian children and their families with the dignity and respect you would expect and receive in your home country?

In the west, children living in long term residential care (an orphanage) is seen as a Dickensian-era failure of the system, it is the absolute last resort where all other options and safety nets have broken down. It is unclear to me why an outdated model of care, rejected in the West, can be justified as an acceptable and appropriate form of early-intervention care for Cambodian children. A cynic could presume that elements of ethnocentrism play a role in this form of selective interpretation of the Child Rights Convention.

Certainly some orphanages are worse than others. There are centres where children are beaten, sexually abused, neglected, exploited for child labour, or trained to be just the right balance of pathetic and cute to attract tourist dollars (which the children see none of). These are abhorrent and disgusting centres that should be shut down, with centre managers and perpetrators charged with the crimes they have committed. The children should be removed and placed in safe locations, supported to overcome the impacts of living in such a terrible situation, and eventually return to family-based care. This is happening now, and the Royal Government of Cambodia is making strong strides in enforcing child protection laws.

But, this focus on the truly terrible centres can ignore the forest of wider harmful issues, for the trees of criminality. Even if children are fed three meals per day and play with toys and attend the odd group trip to a fun park, they are still living in a damaging and potentially harmful environment. Children need care, they need love. Studies overwhelmingly show that children in family based care, be it direct family, extended family or foster care, have better developmental, cognitive and emotional outcomes. Simply being in a residential facility, irrespective of whether they have English classes and PlayStations, is harmful and reduces the chances of kids becoming functional, productive adults.

Children living in long-term residential facilities are also drastically at a higher risk of experiencing abuse. This can take the form of abuse from staff, from outsiders (whether foreign visitors or people in the community), child-on-child abuse, or self-inflicted harm. Being outside a family-like unit increases all these risk factors. The vast majority of orphanages in Cambodia don’t even come close to having the adequate staffing and internal procedures, policies and checks to protect children from these kinds of risks.

Simply put: When they can live somewhere else, children do not belong in orphanages, they are highly damaging and dangerous institutions. Children belong with their family, or another family-like situation if they can’t stay with their direct family.”

If you’d like to learn more, please visit Friends International and take some time to read their very informative Children Are Not Tourist Attractions campaign.

Snaps: Koh Totang

Koh Totang Cambodia

Koh Totang, Cambodia

Last year, after meeting someone on Koh Rong who assured me that there was a more beautiful island in Cambodia, I dragged some visiting friends and family to Koh Totang.

I wasn’t disappointed.  While there, my friend Frances sighed, “I want to move to Cambodia.”

The idea for the Move to Cambodia site was born, and we spent hours on the beach hashing out the details. There couldn’t have been a more beautiful place to come up with a business plan.

Just before we hopped on the boat to head back to our real lives, I stopped on the pier and took this photograph–one last memory of a perfect island holiday.

Frances has written about our trip and included a dozen lovely photographs of Koh Totang here.

Khmer noodles: The story of num banh chok

A definitive Cambodian breakfast or afternoon snack, num banh chok is so ubiquitous and well-loved that it’s often known simply as “Khmer noodles.” If you ask an average Cambodian about the dish, after telling you how delicious it is he’ll patiently explain to you that actually, China didn’t invent noodles, they got the idea from num banh chok.

Num Banh Chok

Khmer noodles, or num banh chok

Num banh chok is the name of the noodles that are laboriously made by hand in heavy stone mills from fermented rice, but it’s also what the dishes made with these appetizing noodles are called. In its simplest form, num banh chok, sometimes called num banh chok samlar Khmer,  is the perfect dish to eat in warm weather: rice noodles topped with a cool fish gravy and crisp raw vegetables including cucumbers, banana blossom, and water lily stems and fresh herbs, such as basil and mint.

Before the war, Phnom Penh’s most famous num banh chok came from a small town 15 kilometers outside of the city. In her book Cooking the Cambodian Way, Narin Jameson writes, “The dish was made from the very tasty fish in the Kampong Kantuot River, which runs through the town…the sellers made their own rice noodles and used vegetables from their own gardens. The only cost for this business was transportation from Kampong Kantuot to Phnom Penh, which was very little in the 1950s.”

Of course there are also many regional variations to the standard num banh chok. There’s Kampot-style num banh chok, which relies on locally-produced sweet dried shrimp, coconut cream, fish sauce and peanuts. Siem Reap has its own version, which has more garlic and coconut milk than the original, and is served with a sweet sauce called tik pha em. Sometimes, num banh chok is served with a curry chicken sauce made with shrimp paste and yams. Another version, num banh chok nam ya, features a red fish curry, and is a delicacy often served at ceremonial occasions such as engagement or wedding ceremonies (if weddings aren’t your thing, you can also find it at the Russian Market).

Even the royals have their own version, num banh chok samlar makod, or rice noodles with crown sauce. The version cited in the most definitive English-language Khmer cookbook, The Cuisine of Cambodia by Nusara Thaitawat, comes from the first Cambodian cookbook, Princess Rasmi Sobhana’s opus, The Cambodian Cookbook, released by the American Women’s Club of Cambodia in 1965. The royal version reflects the international taste of the royal household at the time and is made with chicken livers, Cognac and green peas.

But num banh chok‘s history is far older and more storied that just one Cambodian princess. A popular Khmer folk legend about Thun Chey — a celebrated revolutionary and scholar — features the dish. In the legend, Thun Chey was effectively exiled from the Khmer Empire to China by the Khmer king who was scared of his power and popularity. In China, he was forced to resort to making a living selling num banh chok. Of course such a delicious dish quickly gained popularity with the Chinese, until even the emperor of China had heard about it. The emperor requested that Thun Chey bring the noodles to the palace, and while the emperor was tasting them, Thun Chey sneaks a look at the emperor’s face, an act that is strictly forbidden.

Predictably xenophobic, Thun Chey declares that the emperor of China looks like a dog as opposed to the Khmer king, who looks like the moon, and is promptly thrown in jail, only to cunningly manage to be released and sent back to the Khmer empire soon after. Most Cambodians are familiar with the story of Thun Chey, and many will say that this is where China got the idea for noodles and the undeserved glory resulting from their invention.

If you want to try what may be the world’s first noodle yourself, you can find women walking around Phnom Penh in the mornings and early afternoon selling bowls of num banh chok out of baskets hanging off poles balanced on their shoulders, as well as at local markets including Psar Kandal and Psar Thmei.

Koh Rong: Cambodia’s island paradise

Koh Rong Long Set Beach

Koh Rong, Cambodia. As pretty as a postcard.

In the Gulf of Thailand, a few hours’ boat ride from Sihanounkville’s shore lies Koh Rong, whose squeaky white sand beaches and calm turquoise waters are only just beginning to be discovered by visitors. Koh Rong has neither roads nor cash machines, and electricity only after dark. But the island boasts 43 kilometers of unexplored beaches, and the number of breezy thatched bungalows on the island are multiplying. The world is finally starting to pay attention to Koh Rong and tourists who are willing to forgo 5-star amenities and stay on the island are amply rewarded.

“People don’t know that this exists…I didn’t even know there were islands here when I first came to Cambodia!” said Rudy Schmittlein, the owner of Paradise Bungalows and one of the first Westerners to settle on the island three years ago. Nearby Koh Rong Samloem has long been a favorite for long weekends by the Phnom Penh expat community who enjoyed weekends at Lazy Beach, but few ventured further.

Water Buffalo on Koh Rong

The twice daily water buffalo trek on Koh Rong

But then in late 2010 a number of new accommodations started to be built, including Monkey Island, which is owned by the same people behind Monkey Republic, a backpacker institution in Sihanoukville. Now there are three daily boats that pick up and drop off on various parts of the island, and it’s not only backpackers that are discovering the simple pleasures of island life. “You can’t find this in Thailand anymore without really looking,” said Paddy Robinson, an expatriate Brit and the manager of Monkey Island. “Soon, Sihanoukville is going to be nothing more than a stopping point for these islands.”

“The noise underneath their feet when they walk down the beach, that’s the first thing that people talk about,” Robinson explained. “People say it squeaks, and that doesn’t make it sound very romantic, but that honestly is the first thing that people notice when you’re walking them down the beach from the pier. Like, ‘feel the sand, listen to it.'”

Squeaky sand is unpolluted sand, and that’s what makes the island so magical — compared to neighboring Thai islands that are covered with massive growth and development, Koh Rong is still remarkably pristine, despite the recent introduction of more than dozen sets of bungalows. Move away from the main area, though, and the shore is covered with kilometers of untouched beaches and the interior of the island is uninhabited and filled with dense tropical jungle. When the moon is waning, an ethereal phosphorescence can be seen in the water on the shores of Koh Rong, caused by bioluminescent plankton that are only visible at night. The plankton respond to disturbance by lighting up even brighter, so feel free to splash away.

Beach on Koh Rong Cambodia

Another beautiful beach on Koh Rong

Underwater life is another draw of the island. Divers can arrange for outings with The Dive Shop to have some adventures of of the aquatic variety. “What people actually freak out about are nudibranches — seahorses and nudibranches. You’ve probably never heard of them before,” laughed Schmittlein, who then presented photos of the extraordinarily brightly-colored marine gastropod mollusks. “They are the most colorful animals that you can find underwater, and you can find them here.”

For those who prefer to stay above sea-level, the island provides plenty of opportunity for exploration. There are seven bays on the island and 28 beaches, and all of the residents have their own favorite. Ros Kun Srey Nuch, the owner of Treehouse Bungalows, pointed towards the southeastern tip of the island. “My favorite is Long Set beach, over there. Long Set is the name of the man who makes a farm there. He has cashew nut trees and mango trees, and a lot of coconut trees. On the back side, there is a river where people like to go to find shells and crabs.”

Getting around by boat on Koh Rong Cambodia

Getting around by boat on Koh Rong.

Most of the locals prefer to get around by boat, but there are some trekking trails on the island. The ‘Walking Man’ of the island has been marking paths so that visitors don’t get lost. Gil is an Israeli expat who has been living on the island doing precious little besides exploring all 78 kilometers of it. He’s happy to give trekking suggestions and will even occasionally offer guided tours of one to four days that can be arranged at Paradise Bungalows.

There are around a thousand people living on Koh Rong, and most are happy about the opportunities that tourism to the island has brought. Koh Rong native Srey Leak runs a small restaurant selling fresh-caught seafood with the help of her mother. “My teacher told me that everything other people can do, I also can do,” she said, explaining how she came to start a business at the tender age of 17 after a quick stint working in the kitchen at Monkey Island.

A stunning view of Long Set Beach on Koh Rong

The view from Pura Vida on Koh Rong.

There are fears, though, that the good times won’t last. The Cambodian government has granted a 99-year lease of large portions of the island to an investment conglomerate, the Royal Group. They have plans to build an airport and ecological resort, and presumably, remove all of the small businesses and bungalows that are currently thriving. The development is starting slowly, so for now, the bungalows are safe and it seems like more are being built every day.

“This is a place where you can meet people and where there are things to do. But if you want to explore a little bit further, if you want to look for even more secluded places, you’ve got virginal beaches that no one has trod on,” Robinson claimed. It’s likely, however, that the serene, rustic atmosphere will disappear along with the budget accommodation, so interested travelers shouldn’t waste any time in visiting.”

Paradise Bungalows
Koh Rong
T: 092 548 883 (Sihanoukville booking office)
paradise-bungalows.com

Monkey Island
Koh Rong
T:081 830 992; 081 830 991 (Sihanoukville booking office)
monkeyisland-kohrong.com

Treehouse Bungalows
Koh Rong
T: 016 594 177
treehouse-bungalows.com

Romanticizing the Cambodian kitchen with Joannès Rivière

Joannès Rivière, owner of Siem Reap’s Cuisine Wat Damnak and a champion of modern Cambodian cooking, is more than just a master chef. “He’s also quite funny,” a Siem Reap expat told me.

Joannes Riviere, chef, Cuisine Wat Damnak

Joannès Rivière, the chef and owner of Siem Reap restaurant Cuisine Wat Damnak

 

I shook my head in disbelief. “But he’s French,” I protested.

“I know, but he’s actually funny,” she replied, adding for emphasis, “In English.”

As hard as it was for me to believe, it turns out that the man who is bringing Cambodian food to the world’s attention actually has a sense of humor about the whole thing.

For example, when I ask what he would say to critics who believe that Cambodian food is uninteresting compared to the fare in neighboring Thailand and Vietnam, the 33-year-old chef responds, “I guess they should stay there then!” He generously lends me a rare Cambodian cookbook from the pre-Khmer-Rouge 1960s, then threatens to hunt me down and kill me if I don’t return it. But his sly grin shows just how much my anxious handling of his precious book amuses him.

Originally from the Loire Valley, Rivière studied cooking in France before moving to the United States to work as a pastry chef. In 2003 he moved to Cambodia to be a volunteer cookery teacher at the NGO-run Sala Bai Hotel School. His story is similar to that of many expats — he fell in love with the country and has been here ever since.

While at Sala Bai he wrote one of the first cookbooks about Cambodian food to be published in the West in both French and English. From there he went on to become the executive chef at the Hotel de la Paix in Siem Reap before opening his own restaurant in 2011. Since then Cuisine Wat Damnak has developed a reputation as the best restaurant in Siem Reap, and possibly the entire country.

A dish at Cuisine Wat Damnak

This is just one of five courses. Save some room.

It took me ages to actually get to the restaurant; for those of us entrenched in Phnom Penh, Siem Reap can feel like a world away. But people kept telling me that I had to go, that the food is amazing. Whenever I had guests, I’d send them off to Siem Reap to see the temples and tell them to try what I’d heard was the best restaurant in Cambodia. They’d inevitably come back with rave reviews and gorgeous photos of perfectly cooked local seafood caught fresh from the Mekong and Tonle Sap, and I’d vow that soon I’d make the journey to Siem Reap to try it myself.

When I finally did, I kicked myself for not going sooner. Cuisine Wat Damnak serves two set menus each night, priced at $19 for five courses and $26 for six. Not only was the food as good as everyone had said, but the experience allowed me to consider Cambodian food in a way I never had before.

Rivière’s dishes are truly Cambodian — he doesn’t shy away from using ingredients that most Westerners find intimidating, such as the boldly pungent Khmer prahok — but prepared with traditional French discipline and attention to detail. The results are sublime.

Some of his creations combine Cambodian recipes that aren’t traditionally paired together, like a chewy rice-flake-and-coconut pancake similar to nom krok served with Mekong langoustines atop a bed of minced pork and eggplant, or chaa traop dot, and decorated with edible Tonkin jasmine flowers. While each piece of the dish is true to its Cambodian roots, the combination is uniquely Joannès.

Khmer out of the pot soup

“Out of the pot” soup, as made by Joannès Rivière

Other dishes, like his “out of the pot” soup, are just like what his Khmer grandmother would have made, if he had a Khmer grandmother. The soup has that name because the ingredients–fried catfish and fresh vegetables and herbs, in Rivière’s version with mild green mango, shaved cucumber, crunchy waterlily stems and sweet-smelling lemon basil — are prepared in the bowl and the fish stock is only added moments before the dish is served. Rivière makes some slight changes, though. He floats a halved, perfectly cooked hard-boiled egg in the broth, rather than grating it in. The latter method is traditional but yields a soup that’s distinctly lacking in the gourmet aesthetics that Rivière favors. And his broth is delicate and flavorful  a far cry from the sweet, MSG-laden stock that’s usually inflicted on this homestyle soup.

Some of his more recognizable Cambodian recipes stick closely to traditional ingredients and preparation, but “with the bones removed and maybe a little bit more attention to the cooking,” he says. “Others are based on traditional combinations, but taken apart and put back together. The ingredients are the same, the taste is relatively the same, but the result is definitely different–more modern.”

It’s clear from talking to Rivière how thoroughly he has embraced his adopted home. His Khmer language skills are excellent (although he admits his learned vocabulary equips him to talk about food rather than politics) and his knowledge of Cambodian culinary history and cooking techniques outstrips that of most locals of his generation. Much of his know-how comes from talking with Cambodian grandmothers who happily share their recipes and cooking secrets with him. As a result, this Frenchman has become the foremost Western authority on Cambodian cooking, and a brilliant interpreter of Khmer cuisine.

One of the things that sets his cooking apart from many of today’s Cambodian chefs is that Rivière uses only locally grown produce. He eschews onions, coriander, carrots and potatoes because they don’t grow well in Cambodia and aren’t traditionally used in Cambodian cooking. Although much of the meat sold in Cambodia is imported from Vietnam, all of the pork, beef, chicken, duck, quail, frog, and fish used at Cuisine Wat Damnak is locally sourced.

Siem Reap market

Shopping with Joannès at the old market in Siem Reap

Another distinctive feature of his cuisine is the way he romanticizes rustic Khmer cooking, basing his creations on how things were in days gone by, not how they are now. “I tend to idealize Cambodian food, meaning that I like to exaggerate, in a good way, some aspects,” he says. “For example, when I make braised prahok with minced pork and crudites, I add a pork bone and trotter stock so that it is even more creamy. And for the crudites, I like to use a mix of texture, flavor and colors that is much more dramatic.”

When I ask why his Cambodian flavors turn out so differently from–and, dare I say, better than–average Cambodian fare, Rivière jokes, “Because of my amazing style.” Then he gets serious. “As a foreigner I can allow myself to do things that people would find weird if the chef were Cambodian. Because I am not, I can do whatever I want–as long as it tastes good.”

Cuisine Wat Damnak
Between Psa Dey Hoy market and Angkor High School
Wat Damnak village, Sala Kamrek Commune, Siem Reap
T: 063 965 491; 077 347 762
cuisinewatdamnak.com

Review: Sokhalay Angkor Resort & Spa villas, Siem Reap

The Sokhalay Angkor Resort and Villa offers a true resort experience in the heart of Siem Reap. I had the pleasure to stay there recently as part of an assignment I was working on, and I was thoroughly impressed by the charming garden ambiance they’ve cultivated.

The Sokhalay Angkor pool by day

The Sokhalay Angkor pool is practically an ocea.

The Sokhalay Angkor is massive, and divided up into three separate properties. The best are the wooden villas that surround the biggest saltwater pool I’ve seen in my life. There’s also the Hotel with really fancy-shmancy rooms, and the Inn, which has more budget rooms and is usually used for conferences and tour groups.

There are 40 villas that have 149 rooms, even during the high season when the place is pretty booked up they are quiet and give you the feeling that you’re the only one staying there. All have either garden or pool views, and they are surrounded by greenery–a rarity in Cambodian design. The villas are luxurious, with flat screen televisions, a lounge area with couches, a minibar and a big plate of fresh fruit, and the beds are incredibly comfortable. The bathrooms are lovely, with a separate room for the toilet, and big tubs to soak in.

Sokhalay Angkor bathroom

If you’re afraid of large bodies of water, skip the pool and go for the tub.

Much of the place was designed by Cambodia’s most famous architect, Van Molyvann. Apparently, this was his last work for hire was designing the Sokhalay villas and Green restaurant. The style of the villas is heavy on the wood as the Khmer riche seem to prefer, with Cambodian silk accents and a few photographs of local flora on the walls. My only complaint is that they are quite dark if you leave the windows closed, but leaving the windows open means leaving them unlocked, so I ended up leaving the windows closed most of the time and running the air-conditioning. Annoying, but not the worst problem in the world.

Sokhalay Angkor pool at night

Interior of one of the pool view villas at Sokhalay Angkor — bigger than my NYC apartment!

Starting at around $100/night (you’ll find the best deals on Agoda) they offer fantastic value for money.

You should be sure to enjoy a Sokhalay cocktail next to their enormous saltwater pool that’s perfect for relaxing in after a long day at the temples. They’ve got a live Filipino band that plays in the evenings. Most of the guests seemed to disappear for dinner, but they have a nice (if pricey) menu that features both Asian and European fare. The breakfast buffet was also pretty good; I had a few pastries and a noodle soup and can’t really complain.

Sokhalay Angkor pool at night

Evening cocktails by the pool at Sokhalay Angkor Resort

The Sokhalay Angkor is located on the Airport Road a little bit out of town, but not unreasonably far. They can arrange temple tours, cooking classes and anything else your little touristy heart desires. They’ve also got a spa with an indoor pool offering a wide range of massage and salon services at what seemed like reasonable prices for a resort.

I go to Siem Reap quite regularly and stay in all kinds of places in every price range. However, I will say that when I visit the temples I am always very happy to come home to a slightly more upscale place with a pool and better yet, a spa. (For those who haven’t had the pleasure — a visit to the temples of Angkor usually involves waking up early and walking around in the hot sun all day.)

To sum it up, if you’re looking for a lovely place to relax with a giant pool, the villas at Sokhalay Angkor can’t be beat.

Book at the Sokhalay Angkor on Agoda

Sokhalay Angkor Resort & Spa
National Road 6, Siem Reap
T: 063 968 222
W: sokhalayangkor.com

Snaps: Independence Monument at dusk

Cambodia Independence Monument at dusk

Phnom Penh’s Independence Monument

At least once a week at dusk as I make my way home from the gym, I think, “Why didn’t I bring my camera?” Last week I finally did.

Phnom Penh’s Independence Monument was designed by Vann Molyvann, Cambodia’s most famous architect. His style, often called New Khmer architecture, can be seen in this lotus-shaped stupa that was erected in 1958 to commemorate independence from France in 1953.

In recent years, they have taken to illuminating the monument with colored lights and water features at night. Whether it’s tasteful is debatable, but it certainly is striking.

Once, I saw a tourist standing and taking a photo of the monument during the afternoon. Two men on a moto whizzed by and one grabbed the tourist’s camera. It took him several seconds to react, and by the time he did, they were gone.